Pain During Intimacy Is Worth Talking About
You want to enjoy being close, but worry about a pain that has happened before. Perhaps you have started avoiding sex without explaining why. You do not have to push through discomfort to protect the mood or your partner's feelings.
Stop and describe what hurts
Tell your partner when you need to pause. For a medical appointment, note where the pain is, what it feels like and when it occurs. You do not need to know the cause before asking for help.
Get advice before trying to work around it
Persistent or recurring pain deserves assessment. Severe pain or an injury needs urgent care. Avoid using a new device or changing an activity to mask the problem. Comfortable closeness can take another form while you find out what is happening.